When I got this necklace, it was the most expensive piece of jewelry I had ever bought for myself. It cost $80. I was living in Boulder with my then-husband, who was in grad school. My work as a freelance writer barely kept us afloat. But when I saw this necklace in a bohemian, second-hand dress shop, it seemed made just for me. I loved the shimmery copper and the depth of the green and turquoise beads, which are set inside a layer of clear glass. Every time I passed the store, I went in to look at the necklace, anxious that it would be gone. Finally, I bought it. My husband (who, aside from my wedding ring, gave me only two pieces of jewelry during our 25 years together -- a ring when we were 16 and some pretty calla lily earrings for an anniversary) was angry. But I didn't care. And it turns out I was right. The necklace has given me more joy than my husband ever did, and while he is gone from my life, the necklace remains.
Even though I can now afford it, I seldom spend much on clothes or jewelry. My most extravagant splurge ever was on these gold earrings, which I found in Athens when I was working in Europe last year. They cost $600, and when I plunked down my Euros and wore them out of the shop, feeling elegant and happy, I didn't have to answer to anyone.
PS -- Frink just read this post. His response? "You spent $600 on earrings in Greece?!!!" Sigh.
We all know the unexamined life is not worth living. But what about the unexamined toaster oven? Is it worth living with? If we are what we eat, are we also what we own? This site is my effort to find out, to become an anthropologist of my own material culture, a detective of my own history. The goal: to reflect on everything I own—from pill bottles to pillow cases, from death notices to DVDs--with all the insight and honesty I can muster. Some posts are long and serious, others short and silly; some explore the deeply personal, others the wonderful, crazy world we all share...the thing itself decides. I hope you'll find something interesting or amusing here, and that you, too, will be inspired to spend a few minutes looking at the things that surround you, taking stock.
Since many of my posts are pretty personal, I've given pseudonyms to some people who show up in this blog.
Frink--My True Love. Every time his namesake on The Simpsons says "Flavin" in that Jerry Lewis voice, he laughs till it hurts. It's charming and goofy and I love him for it.
Great Aunt Fern & Uncle Edmond -- More than anyone else in my family, my kindred spirits. She was a southern housewife, he an erudite professor. They left their old lives and selves behind when he joined the UN in the 50s and they moved to Sri Lanka, India, Ethiopia, Thailand, and elsewhere.
The Party Grandma -- my father's mother, a one-time flapper and party girl. She wasn't much of a mother, but my father doted on her nonetheless.
Aunt Jackie -- The Party Grandma's younger sister, who more or less raised my dad. Still going strong at 95.
August -- My little sister, who took her own life at 17. One day soon I'll work up the courage to write about her.
Puki and SamIAm -- our cats.
Matt--My brilliant, troubled ex-husband, a doctor and drug addict. We became best friends at 14, started dating at 16, moved in together at 20, married at 25, divorced at 40.
The Slut--The woman my husband had an affair with. And got pregnant. Oh, did I mention I was pregnant at the time? I lost my baby (the last of 5 miscarriages); she had hers. They're in the midst of a nasty divorce.
Me--Because I refuse to give The Slut the last word!
LOL!
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